Ever felt like someone is "too good" to be in your life? Felt that compared to you, they're much better at everything and they deserve better, so why degrade their potential by being in their life? I'm sure everyone has had this thought at least once in their life, and many continue to have those feelings for a large portion of their life.
This feeling is mostly associated with low self confidence and insecurity. Because one does not think that they are "good enough", they immediately assume that they are not compatible or viable to remain connected to a person and feel that they "hinder" a person's ability.
This is not an entirely negative feeling, it simply means you understand yourself in a certain way and you simply care for someone enough to not want to stop them from being their best, but speaking from personal experience, when a person tells a friend or a partner that they don't "deserve" the other and/or that they are simply not good enough, 9 out of 10 times the receiver is the one that feels an immense guilt or a feeling of remorse. Unlike what the person intended, the friend or partner ends up feeling a certain sense of guilt and betrayal. Thoughts like, "Do they feel this way because of something I did? or, "I went this long and I never noticed that they felt that way? go through their mind, instilling that seed of insecurity that was once in someone they cared about.
If you feel like you aren't good enough, then please, hold that feeling close to your heart, hold on to it, and use it as a drive to BECOME better. If you feel that you are undeserving of someone, then simply improve enough to feel within yourself that you deserve them. A person who simply has this determination alone should be deserving of anyone and everyone, it is a difficult feeling to grab hold of. In this day and age, where giving up is hardly discouraged, many people instantly assume that improvement will only lead to more disappointment, however, that is not so.
If you care for someone, and if you feel that they are bound by you, limited by you, then let them know, talk to them, tell them how you feel, because the one thing that hurts more than feeling that you stop somebody's potential is the feeling of knowing that you caused a person pain by not noticing their feelings. When you have a thought and you're thinking about it constantly, by all means, get that thought out of yourself, the more it stays within you, the more it will poison your thought, Talk about it, write about it, say it out loud!
At the end of the day, the gist is to not give up. Letting go of something you held on for so long will possibly cause you great regret, but even then, do not fret, because as long as you believe that something can happen, that you can get better and improve to a point where you can proudly say that you are deserving of everything you have in life, it is possible. Human belief drives reality, it only takes a thought to build a monument.
Stay Strong
This feeling is mostly associated with low self confidence and insecurity. Because one does not think that they are "good enough", they immediately assume that they are not compatible or viable to remain connected to a person and feel that they "hinder" a person's ability.
This is not an entirely negative feeling, it simply means you understand yourself in a certain way and you simply care for someone enough to not want to stop them from being their best, but speaking from personal experience, when a person tells a friend or a partner that they don't "deserve" the other and/or that they are simply not good enough, 9 out of 10 times the receiver is the one that feels an immense guilt or a feeling of remorse. Unlike what the person intended, the friend or partner ends up feeling a certain sense of guilt and betrayal. Thoughts like, "Do they feel this way because of something I did? or, "I went this long and I never noticed that they felt that way? go through their mind, instilling that seed of insecurity that was once in someone they cared about.
If you feel like you aren't good enough, then please, hold that feeling close to your heart, hold on to it, and use it as a drive to BECOME better. If you feel that you are undeserving of someone, then simply improve enough to feel within yourself that you deserve them. A person who simply has this determination alone should be deserving of anyone and everyone, it is a difficult feeling to grab hold of. In this day and age, where giving up is hardly discouraged, many people instantly assume that improvement will only lead to more disappointment, however, that is not so.
If you care for someone, and if you feel that they are bound by you, limited by you, then let them know, talk to them, tell them how you feel, because the one thing that hurts more than feeling that you stop somebody's potential is the feeling of knowing that you caused a person pain by not noticing their feelings. When you have a thought and you're thinking about it constantly, by all means, get that thought out of yourself, the more it stays within you, the more it will poison your thought, Talk about it, write about it, say it out loud!
At the end of the day, the gist is to not give up. Letting go of something you held on for so long will possibly cause you great regret, but even then, do not fret, because as long as you believe that something can happen, that you can get better and improve to a point where you can proudly say that you are deserving of everything you have in life, it is possible. Human belief drives reality, it only takes a thought to build a monument.
Stay Strong
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